It’s not about the idea of having possession of another person and expecting them to belong only to you… and forever. This is what many people think of when they think of a soul mate or twin flame connection. The meaning has been skewed and flipped around to make it signify some kind of “forever and till death do us part” type of relationship, when in actuality it is far from that, and something I would better describe as a reality check.
Soul connections are about learning. They are not exclusive to romantic relationships, they also include family relationships, and friendships. They are showing you who you are, and who you can become. They show you your true potential. They bring up and bring out your weaknesses so you can spend the time necessary to face them and work to overcome them. Quite ANNOYING! Even though it is a necessary process. I think this is why people stay in their comfort zones. Most of us keep our walls up and we would rather not deal with our own demons nor the demons of another person. Soul mate and twin flame relationships can turn out very difficult and even sour at times. They are a test for people who still have certain types of issues to resolve within themselves. The only amazing part of it in my experience is the feeling of the connection itself and the true intimacy that can be achieved if both people come to an understanding and are mutually working with themselves and with each other.
Even if you are a very spiritual person that is practicing compassion and the process of ‘letting go’, these types of connections can really test your open-hearted nature. Whatever old fears you had stuffed will come about. You will most likely meet people who seem like your complete opposite. Sometimes they are showing you another side of life that you are being given the chance to explore. Sometimes the connection is teaching you acceptance of your counterpart’s lifestyle and that’s where unconditional love comes in. The true loving of another person without condition or expectation. Without expecting them to do for you in return. Just letting them be who they are. This is obviously pretty difficult for most of us. Many people feed into their ego’s selfish nature, so they start to become possessive, obsessive, intimidated and/or withdrawn. There are the folks who run from the connection because the strength of it cannot really be explained. Most people have to have a reason why they are drawn to a person, and the being drawn to someone for absolutely no explainable, tangible reason is so crazy to some people that they would rather get away.
I’m not trying to undermine these connections or trash talk them. They are absolutely necessary and perfect for spiritual growth. I admit that they get on my damn mother******* nerves at times because I have had a series of aggravating episodes when it comes to them lol. But just what I have stated right there is an exact indicator that I still have work to do..LOL. Despite the difficulties, they have shown and reminded me of the areas of my life and personality that I need to acknowledge. They have helped me build up strength to practice letting go of the unpleasant emotions associated with how I viewed myself. They have reminded me to remain open-hearted even in the face of what seemed like flat out ridicule, rejection and the discovery of my counterparts’ demons or qualities that differed from my own. I do sometimes in the midst of my own aggravation say that I’d rather remain a recluse rather than deal with these connections. But what good would I get out of that? I would not be able to learn, grow and experience other views on life.
Some of these connections can be completely amazing with little issues and those are just as important. From what I have seen, the more pleasant experiences in this realm of connections, will show you that you are beautiful regardless of what has happened and will happen in your life and they will remind you of the freedom that your soul’s true nature is comprised of. They will show you real intimacy and the freedom of completely being yourself, freely revealing dreams as well as fears. It’s not all bad.
The keys to dealing with these types of connections is patience, taking time to contemplate, providing your counterpart with lots of space when the signs are there that they want/need it, even if it feels like death to you (that would be your own insecurities and inability to let go). Working to love yourself more and paying full attention to yourself, your needs, dreams and nurturing your talents and creativity. Neglecting yourself will send a subconscious signal to others that will make them pull away. This is why people who chase after love and approval, seem to forever chase it without getting it. Self-love and self-focus allows us to receive the universe’s gifts when we least expect them.