Empowered Women v.s. Parasitic Women

When you are a woman who owns herself, are balanced in your approach and has boundaries, you may encounter at least one woman in your life who soon after your first meeting will make it a challenge to try to possess you like you’re their shiny new toy.  They begin with a shower of constant compliments and love bombing.  Over time those compliments begin to turn backhanded. After a while they may begin to throw subliminal insults online or disguise them as jokes to your face,  followed by the per usual “just kidding”. When your boundaries stay sturdy as a result of noting and observing their behavior, they begin to feel frustrated since their shower of compliments and the pretense of “being friendly” didn’t really move you as they had hoped. You have a good sense of picking up on manipulation.  Although you pick up on this,  you keep your demeanor balanced. When you remove yourself from the situation. Their frustration becomes more evident as they try to obsessively maintain contact and bombard you with questions asking “are you mad” or invasive questions like “where have you been”.

Eventually some employ more aggressive tactics to continue a connection with you. They may become confused and frustrated by your not allowing them to manipulate your moods and reactions so they will need to create conflict by doing things to try to get you out of character and trigger you. Chaos and conflict is another soothing method for women like these, #1 because they want an opportunity to cry victim once you waste energy defending yourself, and label you the offender. #2 they want to draw energy out of you and feel satisfaction reducing you to their level. When continuing to keep your distance they’ll at the least resent you for it and simply move on,  but at most they may say you’re stuck up or think you’re better than others as a way to evade accountability. At worst they may concoct and spread rumors about you. 

Some of these women will be all around rude to you  because they are triggered by your self-reliance. Despite their rudeness they expect openness from you and will endlessly wait for you to extend olive branches so they can purposely reject you. Their rudeness is simply a cry for your attention and your reaction would be a doorway for them to attempt to disempower you. If you don’t remain open, and go on about your business or are the type to swiftly not give energy to this type of behavior, they will resort to the gossip and slander mentioned above. They’ll say you’re the one that’s difficult, stuck up, rude and closed off. Basically an attempt at projecting who they are on you. 

To some all of this up, this is the female narcissist. They’ll try to remove you from your own position of self-ownership and confidence, but to no avail. If they grow in the least bit they’ll realize that’s impossible to do because that self ownership and confidence comes from within and from a place that is intangible. A place they can never reach. Some may say, why not give them a taste of their own medicine? In my many years of learning about interpersonal relationships through my own experiences I’ve concluded that these types of personalities want to manipulate your reactions. They want you to be just like them. That’s their goal. These are people that enjoy chaos and want to pull you into theirs. People do not realize they’re being ripped off and give away their power easily by reacting to these people. 

The whole narrative of this type of girl is “I see this powerful woman that owns herself. I want her to validate me and approve of me so that I can feel better about myself and by reducing her with my dysfunction I can feel for once that I’m better than her and women like her. I don’t believe in balance and I am addicted to power struggle so instead of operating on an equal level to her and realizing that I am just as worthy as her, I will continue to refuse to do the work and would rather take the easy way out by reducing her to the best of my ability. Reducing her to the level I believe I’m in. I want to make her worship me because her power reminds me that I am not powerful enough and I envy that.  I want to make her pay for my shortcomings and punish her for doing the self healing and self loving internal work that I refuse to do for myself out of laziness and fear of confronting myself.”

Get this: Women who radiate a quiet confidence and  a neutral disposition while being self-reliant and self-loving got there because they FACED THEIR DARKEST SHADOWS. THEY DID THE WORK! Attacking them or trying to riddle their lives with drama will never get you to their level or higher. That will only bring you down even further. If you want to reach that level you must take accountability of your dysfunctional drama-addicted behavior. These women you’re targeting did hard work and faced, accepted, healed and continue a life long healing journey through recognizing the worst part of themselves and therefore recognizing the inner goddess. They don’t operate from a place of lack nor spend time trying to “take” someone else’s power because they know they have their own. They’re too busy filling their own cups and nurturing themselves as should you. Going into your shadow and becoming self-aware is the key to liberation. 

For those who are on the verge of awakening: Parasitic behavior keeps you going in circles. Being courageous and facing yourself takes you places and gives you access to the best version of you. Being courageous and accountable leads to living your best life spiritually and mentally, fueling many miracles into physical manifestation. The only way to advance is to take accountability of your own bs!