Social Media Illusion


Social media is a double edged sword. You can learn so much from it, connect with different people in positive ways but also be fooled and confused into delusions by it. We tend to focus so much on what we see externally and on the over-importance of others, as we minimize our own efforts and successes. Extroversion and boastfulness do not equate to confidence or success. Introversion and silence do not equate to low self-worth or failure. The internet and social media can be a house of mirrors that can fool many into believing that what’s most physically evident is what’s true or what has more worth than internal successes and intangible qualities about ourselves.

If you were able to take a picture of your soul, would you post that picture on social media? Before being upset or feeling down about your so called failures and inability to “prove” anything to the world, remember that there is much more worth in the intangible progress you make, than in the physical things you can “showcase”. Anyone with a pulse can post something and make it look beautiful on Instagram and Facebook. They can throw filters, they can arrange themselves a certain way or they can legitimately have beautiful things and a perfectly glamorous home or outfit, but inside of them can exist a whole different world opposite of all that outer beauty.

Some people use these outer complishments as crutches to help them feel a sense of superiority over others. Some people see these things and automatically feel belittled because unfortunately, the world convinces you that if you do not show any physical, tangible success, that you are a failure. What most people who fall into this littleness forget to think about is the fact that anyone who has to showcase anything to make others feel less than, deep down, feels like a little person themselves. Everyone acts out their sense of inferiority differently and some will do by posting excessive selfies and pictures showcasing what they have, in an attempt to gain many likes or to prove themselves to others. Take into account also, that many people who focus so much on the material and on showing what they have, are not doing the proper healing or dealing with their own insecurity. They will leave inner work unnoticed and their inner child unattended, for the sake of fulfilling their desperate need for likes and recognition.

I have seen people who have the most beautiful souls and enriching lives, who do for others and are developing themselves beautifully inside and out. Owning their flaws and on the path to self-love. They do not go out of their way to flaunt because they are already fulfilled. I myself am on this path to self love and healing and it is an extremely valuable path. Well worth it, full of it’s ups and downs of course. We are not the most glamorous of people because that’s not the path that we have, we are here for a larger purpose. I can see why people who do spiritual work can feel so out of place. Society seems to value physicality and riches above anything. But know that physicality and riches is not the ultimate truth, specially when it is being used as a replacement to, or a distraction from spiritual growth and healing.

Enjoy your journey and your life. Be thankful for the things you have such as family, home, food, nature surrounding you, and the many beautiful and sometimes small things you can think of. Putting yourself above others is not conducive to blessings. Being thankful for what you already have, is. It is a beautiful balance when you can have beautiful things and a peaceful soul. My writing of this article is not proclaiming that it is a bad thing to have physical things and to enjoy them. What I am trying to help people understand is that it is not conducive to well being when you allow physical gratification, the desperate need for riches, or the desperate need to showcase things for likes, to overtake your life and distract you from your much more important and bigger spiritual advancement.

Social Media and Assumptions

I recently closed my Facebook and Instagram accounts because they were just no longer for me. There was no real interaction going on and it just got dull. It became boring because I saw a lot of the same and honestly I’m more so trying to use social media (other sites) for advertising my Massage Therapy business. I’m happy to just keep a lot of my personal stuff, including pictures to myself and for my family to share. Maybe on occasion I share on one site I do use that I wont mention here. Despite being all about connecting with others who are like-minded, it seemed like many negative things overpowered my need for being on these very popular sites. I feel a huge freedom and I do not plan on making any accounts with these two sites ever again, except of course, for my ‘Healing Garden’ “like” page which I run via an old empty Facebook account. As soon as I closed my accounts, I was contacted by several people about why I had decided to close my account. Some people thought I was angry at them and were wondering why.

Honestly it is super insane to me how these social media websites can warp your mind to the point that it seems “abnormal” to not have an account on these sites. To the point that something has to absolutely be wrong for you to close an account. Many people seem to make it their whole world and take offense or feel slighted and upset when someone suddenly decides to close their account. I myself had a very warped mindset at one point. I was hooked to these two sites, constantly checking updates, to fill my idle time. It is yet another distraction to keep you away from yourself. I find myself meditating more and figuring out more about my life. I was already doing those things not as much as I should have. I feel like my focus has increased and is more centered on my priorities and in the now moment. One thing I am happy to have eliminated is having to view negativity and dealing with the spitefulness of some people. All because you are focusing on building up your business or because you are sharing positive posts. Seems like some people’s nasty attitudes spiked when I began doing that so I just shifted my focus elsewhere. I may sound like a complainer or a coward and a runner, but honestly no one needs to keep negative energy around when trying to build a positive empire and when trying to attract blessings into your life.

So far things have been different and I’m more focused on what is going on around me during idle time, than zoomed into my phone or computer screen. Unless i’m playing a game and that doesn’t happen often. I do use a few sites I wont mention but I’m not crazily hooked on them like I was with Facebook and Instagram, and i’m even more involved in what’s going on around me now. If someone just suddenly disappears from your favorite site, take some time to think that it may not be about you. Lol. The self-centeredness that is caused by these sites is bananas. Realize that people may want to focus more on their goals, or may want to take time off or recharge, or what have you.